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WHAT
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Often
someone who has a mentoring relationship is
not quite sure what they should – or
shouldn’t – expect from their
mentor. The following table gives a summary
of good practice in this area.
The information in the
table below emphasises that if you want to
have the best form of development assistance
from your mentor, you should look for someone
who is there to help you develop yourself,
not to do it for you. It won’t help
you if your mentor tries to sponsor you -
for example, arranging for you to get some
business through your mentor’s networks
- rather than helping you work out how to
get that business, maybe with an introduction
from your mentor. If you accept such assistance,
you are creating a dependence on your mentor,
rather than learning skills that will make
you more independent.
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Also, it is important that your mentor stays within
the boundaries of a mentoring relationship and does
not try to become a therapist or a social worker
– solving your family problems for example.
Sure, your mentor can help you think through, and
maybe rehearse, some ways of dealing with family
issues, but your mentor should not become directly
involved.
The
best mentors create a strong relationship with their
mentees, within which the mentor can challenge you
quite hard, make you think, make you re-think your
assumptions, make you create new ways of solving
your problems. You should expect this, and also
it is your right to expect your discussions to remain
totally confidential between you two.
Your
mentor should spend most of the time listening to
you, and should show that he or she is listening
carefully, by asking you questions that can only
come out of a good understanding of what you have
been saying. At the end of a mentoring discussion,
you should feel that you have come up with the solutions
to your problems, that you are the one who was being
creative, and that you are the one driving the relationship.
Your mentor was asking good questions and was offering
his or her experience to help you create your own
answers.
| Mentors
are those special people in our lives
who, through their deeds and work, help
us and inspire us towards fulfilling
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